Get Away Alone with Your Spouse

‘When was the last time you and your spouse got away to be alone together? No children, no distractions; just time for the two of you.

Does getting away with your spouse sound like something you dream about but can’t figure out how to do? Well, this is a dream the two of you need to make come true. Spending time alone together is vital for the health of your marriage, and for each of you individually. Recapturing the days of what it was like before children came along in your lives is sometimes a nice reminder of what it will be like when the children leave home.

There are several issues you may have to work on in order to get away:

1. Leaving town can be a strain on your budget
2. It may be difficult to find someone to watch your children that you trust
3. The children may even give you a hard time about leaving and whine like they’ve been wounded

Whatever issues you may encounter, as a married couple, you must find time to be alone. Leaving town, even if it’s just 30 minutes down the road, allows you both to focus on each other.

Once you figure out how to get away, consider making this vacation an opportunity to enjoy your sexual relationship fully. Dr. Kevin Leman suggests in his book, Sheet Music:

Plan a sexual feast, without apology and without shame. This is the time to go back through that variety chapter [earlier in his book] and really think about ways to spice up your love life.

Maybe the wife will “shave” for the first time. Maybe the husband will hide a bag of flower petals and strew them across the bed while his lover is taking a shower. Maybe the wife will book a room with mirrors. Maybe the husband will bring along some foot lotion.

In the end, as much as they may complain initially, your kids will thank you for your commitment to loving each other (though of course they’ll never know why you really went away.)[1]

A perfect opportunity to get away is to celebrate your anniversary. Teach your children that your marriage has a birthday, too. Use this special occasion to show your children and others just how much you value and appreciate your spouse.

Approach this time with anticipation. Make is special. Buy that special negligee, take candles, find romantic music, and give each other your undivided attention.

While you may think you don’t have the time or money to invest in such times as these, you can’t affort not to. Take care of your marriage by nurturing it and giving it the attention it deserves.

Footnotes:

1. Dr. Kevin Leman, Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 2003), 186.

Republished by Blog Post Promoter