God and Sex Go Together

Are godly and sensuous contradictory terms to you?

Do you see them as being at opposite ends of the spectrum?

Do you believe it is possible for a woman to be godly and sensual at the same time?

Do you believe you can be both godly and sensuous at the same time?

Actually, God made you to be both. In a great book I read called Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus, the authors talk about how many women are under the mistaken belief that sex and godliness can’t possibly go together. While sex is quite physical in nature, many women fail to understand that it is also spiritual. Here’s why.

Sex was created by God for marriage and for our pleasure. The entire book of Song of Solomon, while very poetic, is very erotic as well. God intended sex to be enjoyed by a married couple throughout the course of their relationship. It is good, and it is holy when a married couple “play by His rules.”

As a woman, it is important for you to grow more godly as you mature. God desires for you to draw closer to Him, to bless others with your words and time, to take care of your children, and to bless your husband.

Did you realize that one of the most powerful ways you “bless” your man is when you share sex with him? It’s true. You see, by God’s laws, you are the only one allowed to fulfill this need in your husband. It is a type of relationship that isn’t meant to be shared with anyone else except your mate.

I remember reading a powerful statement Linda and Lorraine shared in their book. They said that “godly married women should be the greatest lovers on earth!” That’s because, not only do we possess physical passion, but we have the added element of holiness in our relationship. However, many women, even Christian women, aren’t very good lovers. Could it be that we haven’t made a commitment to God and to our husband to be the greatest lover we can be? If we sense that we are having trouble realizing that godliness and sexuality are meant to go together, maybe we have a spiritual problem to deal with.

I like how author Marla Taviano shares this thought in her book, Is That All He Thinks About?:

If you’re consistently denying your husband, you’re denying that God has given you an incredibly special gift to personally enjoy and to share with another–and has specifically asked you to use it often. When you say no, you’re telling God His gift is inferior. You’re throwing it back at Him and saying, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

No matter how godly a woman you consider yourself to be, if you haven’t surrendered your sex life to God, you might as well throw the word “godly” out the window. We can’t pick and choose the parts of our lives we want to give to the Lord. He wants all of us. If you aren’t honoring Him in your marriage bed, you aren’t honoring Him.[1]

Take some time soon to pray and think through some of the lies you’ve believed from growing up and what you thought God wanted you to do. Then read books like A Wife’s Invitation to Intimacy and Is That All He Thinks About? and ask God to help you figure out how to become the godly AND sensuous woman He wants you to be, and the one your husband needs you to be.

Footnotes:

Marla Taviano, Is That All He Thinks About?: How to Enjoy Great Sex with Your Husband (Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers, 2007), 38.

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