Nurture Your Marriage Relationship

Just like everything else that’s a priority in our lives, working on our marriages should be right at the top of our list of things to put our best efforts into.

Let’s face it–marriage takes work. Without putting effort into our relationship, our spouse can begin to feel neglected, used and even feel unloved. Most research proves that marriages don’t waste away overnight. Instead, it’s a slow process that involves being too busy for each other and assuming your relationship will be fine until you can work on it–later.

In an effort to give you some helpful information about working on your marriage, I found a link at About.com that I thought had some great suggestions. In almost every situation listed, it requires the two of you talking about different things concerning your marriage, which allows for times of intimacy, which is always a good thing.

Here are a few of the suggestions they list on deepening your marriage relationship:

• Think of a behavior you each have that other people like or praise. Ask yourselves why you do this. Share with one another your feelings as you think about this behavior.
• Tape record about an hour’s worth of being with one another – at the dinner table, in the evening when the TV is on, in the morning as you are getting ready for the day. Listen to it together a few days later. Share with one another how listening to this tape makes you feel.
• Work really hard at not interrupting one another. Try to not add your opinion until your spouse is completely finished making a point.
• This weekend, try to not ask your spouse to bring you something, get you something, find something for you, or serve you something. Instead, offer these services to your spouse. How does your spouse’s reaction make you feel?

So, sit down together, read through the list on love and romance, and decide to work on your marriage together.