Reignite Your Sexual Relationship

Did you realize that the state of your marriage is directly related to your sexual relationship? Dr. Gary Smalley has shared this statement in his seminars. He says that he can tell you what condition your marriage is in by you telling him about your sexual relationship. If such a statement is true, then as married couples, it is vital for us to work on our sexual relationship if we want to have a great marriage.

From many of the books published on sex in marriage, authors share how couples often neglect their sex lives or fall into mediocrity in this area. Because of the pressures of everyday living, a couple’s emphasis and commitment to their sexual relationship can often move to the bottom of their list of things to spend time doing and nurturing together. If this attitude continues in the life of a marriage, Gary Smalley’s assessment would cause us to believe that the marriage will slowly die.

What can a couple do? First of all, each spouse must decide to make sex a priority in their marriage. Life will always bring interruptions, yet, a couple must decide if their sexual relationship is worth carving out the time necessary to keep their relationship a priority.

Taking the time to study books like those offered on this website have proven to be valuable in helping couple’s communicate on a deeper level concerning their sex life and marriage.

Trying new things, as well as revisiting old favorites, can often reignite and energize a sexual relationship. The following list is meant to help spark creativity and bring nourishment to your sex life.

Let’s begin with some fairly tame ideas and work our way up!

1. Did you ever go parking before you got married? Try it again. It may be a challenge to find a secluded spot, but that part of the fun!
2. Send your spouse a love letter. Wives especially treasure such things from their husband. Even a wife who writes to her husband about how she admires and appreciates him can penetrate his heart in a whole new way.
3. Install some different forms of lighting in your bedroom. Putting a light on a dimmer switch and having candles burning can enhance your lovemaking. Shadows cast by candlelight can be quite erotic.
4. Give your spouse a foot massage.
5. Purchase satin sheets for your bed. If satin is not your favorite fabric, consider buying red ones.
6. Massage and brush your spouse’s hair. Even men enjoy having this done.
7. Send your spouse an email and tell them you can’t wait until tonight.
8. Enjoy a nice hot bath together, filled with your favorite bubbles or salts. Play soft, romantic music while you bathe with candlelight.
9. Spray your sheets with a linen spray of your choosing.
10. Wear your husband’s favorite cologne the next time you go to bed.
11. Spend several minutes just kissing. Try it with your eyes closed, with your eyes open, and any other techniques that sound interesting.
12. Learn how to belly dance for your husband! It is making quite a comeback. Besides, if Shulamith did it in Song of Solomon, you can too!
13. Give your spouse a nice, long backrub. This often leads to other things. ☺
14. The next time you both go out to dinner, lean over to your husband and tell him you came commando (no underwear). Enjoy watching his expression.
15. Place a temporary tattoo on your body somewhere and ask your spouse to find it.
16. The next time you are stopped at a red light, flash your husband. Make sure there isn’t a semi truck beside you!
17. Arrange to make love in front of the fire. If it’s the summer, just turn up the air conditioner for a short time. You’ll need to because of the heat the two of you will create, too, and it’s worth the little bit of extra money!
18. Make love in a brand new location. Consider a balcony at a motel, the popup camper in the backyard, or the swimming pool at night. This kind of adventure can be very exciting for a husband.
19. How do you feel about strip poker?
20. Take a sex vacation. Spend your time away together, focusing on your lovemaking. This would be a great time for both of you to read a Christian book on sex in marriage.

While this list is certainly not exhaustive, I hope it gives you some new ideas to help jumpstart and reignite your sexual relationship. Don’t let “life” rob you of the necessary nourishment your sexual relationship needs to survive and flourish.